Came across a real story, which made me write this. It’s about nuturing the relationship with children.
The first question which hits my mind “Why Now?” Why is there a gap in all relationships these days or more with this generation? There can be a controversy over this but few of the reasons as per my thoughts are:
One of the reason why relationships fail to build up these days is because of Technology. By just swiping up you get connected to thousands of new people around but we forget to connect to our instantly close ones. Being too busy with our own selves doesn’t work in building a healthy relationship. Secondly, these days people also don’t have the patience to deal with all that comes up. And the last reason I think of is that the new generation is afraid of taking any sort responsibilites and so doesn’t want to live in the world of any compromises and is just so rigid and fond of doing things which are wrong and also take parents for granted. Also I have been looking at trust issues these days be it Parent-Child Relationship or Husband-Wife Relationship or In A Friendship or Between Co-Workers or even an Employer-Employee relation.
Though I second that why dontd we nuture every relation we carry in this new beautiful 2019 year? Because relationships aren’t simple anymore and one needs to work to value it!
We all want a relationship with characteristics like no expiry date, days full of peaceful true affection, etc but we often forget something essential: relationships require daily work. You can’t nurture affection through emptiness or absence. You need an authentic presence for any relationship to grow. Whether personally or professionally one must be willing to work through difficulties and disagreements. One must also face discomfort that comes with different ideas and opinions. Relationships aren’t static, they are living, dynamic aspects of our lives that require attention and care. In order to benefit from strong connections with others, you should take charge of your relationships and put in the time and energy you would put in any other aspect of your wellbeing. Let’s take a challenge of doing it this year.
The best guideline I can think of to nurture a relationship is the “LAW OF ATTRACTION” – The most universal law. You can take a glimpse at one of the most Fascinating movies *”THE SECRET”* – As you think so shall you be!! Since you cannot physically experience another person, you can only experience them in your mind. All of the other people in your life are simply thoughts in your mind. Not physical beings to you, but thoughts. It works the same – your Relationships are all about how you think about the other people in your life. Your experience of all those people is only in your mind. Your feelings about anyone come from your thoughts. For example, they may in fact behave in ways that you find offensive. However, your relationship with them when they behave offensively is not determined by their behavior, it is determined only by how you choose to relate to that behaviour. Their actions are theirs, you cannot own them, you cannot be them, you can only process them in your mind. Have you ever noticed that when you think of something desired, in some time your dream comes true, even though you’ve already forgotten about it? It’s not a miracle and neither a coincidence! This is exactly what is called fulfilment of a wish by the “POWER OF THOUGHTS”. By wishing something with passion you run an energy pulse, which definitely works to make your dream come true. Of course, you may not agree to this and might say that nothing like this has ever happened to you. But be aware that the fulfilment of wishes by the ‘power of thoughts’ has several features. At some level, each of us has always known that we have attracted people, things and events into our lives based on our thoughts. The recognition of that is in our daily speech, such phrases as “What you put your attention on Grows”
How you let these relationships flow and grow has huge impact on the happiness in the lives of both you and the people you’re connected with. So whenever you’re in conflict with someone, there is one factor that can make the difference between damaging your relationship and deepening it and that factor is “Attitude”, Stay away!!
So looking at all aspects when relationships are not nutured everyday, doubts and shortcomings develop. Hence, it may be tough to talk about, but it’s all about getting to know each other better, be it your family members, friends or anyone, and cut off all the troubles you are facing with them and Let’s challenge ourselves to take Our relationships to the next level in twenty nineteen 😎